In a 1996 University of Virginia study lead by Bella DePaulo they recorded a daily log of people age 18 to 71 in the amount of lies they told in a single day. For the 147 participants the average amount of lies they told were just over ten times a day. Of course in the study many of the lies were times where people were trying to be nice. Someone perhaps with a new haircut that looked "good". These types of lies outnumbered the outright denial of truth approximately 15 to 1. This still does not hide the fact that of the 147 participants only seven people could say they were completely honest.
So with this amount of lying going on how do you catch someone in a lie? In these next few blogs we will cover 8 different tips that you can key in on to catch someone in a lie. Now there is no perfect way of discovering if the person across from you is lying to your face or not. Even the polygraph (Lie Detector) only works about 80% of the time. The skilled liars may not "bat an eyelash" in a lie but for most of us there are certain things that give us away.
Tip #1 Look For Contradictions
When people are lying there can often be contradictions in the inflection of their voice, the way they gesture, facial expressions, or even the words that they say. Strangely there can be a disconnect with the way a person is saying something and the facial features that they are portraying. For example when asked if someone stole something they may be saying no but the facial expression or even a slight head nod would indicate they did. Another great example of a contradiction could be when asked whether or not a case was won or a client acquired, the words would come out victorious but the voice inflection sounds defeated.
The key to catching on to the contradictions is being active in the conversation. Looking intently, listening with purpose and paying attention to all aspects of a persons demeanor. To the untrained eye these contradictions can be missed and we just receive the message the sender is trying to portray. But with practice and attention this could be a tip to catch someone in a lie.