In a 1996 University of Virginia study lead by Bella DePaulo they recorded a daily log of people age 18 to 71 in the amount of lies they told in a single day. For the 147 participants the average amount of lies they told were just over ten times a day. Of course in the study many of the lies were times where people were trying to be nice. Someone perhaps with a new haircut that looked "good". These types of lies outnumbered the outright denial of truth approximately 15 to 1. This still does not hide the fact that of the 147 participants only seven people could say they were completely honest.
So with this amount of lying going on how do you catch someone in a lie? In these next few blogs we will cover 8 different tips that you can key in on to catch someone in a lie. Now there is no perfect way of discovering if the person across from you is lying to your face or not. Even the polygraph (Lie Detector) only works about 80% of the time. The skilled liars may not "bat an eyelash" in a lie but for most of us there are certain things that give us away.
Tip#4 Guarded
Many people that are guilty and are being questioned become defensive. The fight or flight instincts kick in and those that are not telling the truth can often become guarded. A few things to watch for are unconscious acts like placing an object between the questioner and themselves. Or folding their arms in a sign of defense and protection. Also the accused sometimes become insistent on their innocence. When the guards go up our first line of defense can be the constant denial of wrong doing or excessive use of "I swear I am not lying". The old stand by of "swear on the Holy Bible" defense can sometimes be a way a person guards against their lies. The one thing to keep in mind is that you sometimes have to know the personality of the subject in question. There are people out there which are naturally guarded and can act in this manner regularly. The thing to key in on is if they are acting outside of their normal everyday persona.
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